This morning I woke up pondering the difference between being restful and being lazy. It’s Saturday, so naturally I slept in – but the guilt eventually got to me and I hauled myself out of bed. It wasn’t even 9:00 yet! But there were things to do and heaven forbid that I give myself a little extra rest.
The older I get the more I realise that I need this peaceful, quiet, restful time in order to feel good and keep the anxiety at bay. More than most people! But I have this lingering label from my childhood that sticks with me and I often find myself fighting it in my mind.
“You’re so lazy!”
I’ve started questioning that label when I catch myself using it. Is it really true? Am I really being lazy or am I just taking care of myself and listening to what my body needs? I posted the question in a private Facebook group asking what they thought the difference was between being restful and being lazy. One person said that if being restful helps me live my best life, then it’s not being lazy at all. So that got me thinking, what is my BEST life? What does that look like and how do I go about setting it up? Everyone wants to live their best life and everyone’s best life looks totally different. But for me – what does that look like for me?
I think my best life is one where I’m happy and healthy and doing things I love to do with the people that I love the most. A life free from anxiety, where I can share my thoughts and feelings openly without keeping things bottled up or hidden inside. My best life is lived in the freedom to be who I was created to be, fully! Completely! Speaking my truth without the fear of what others might think, say or do.
My best life is one where I’m doing the right things for my health – body, mind and spirit. And yes, part of that is being restful. Treating my body with love and respect. Honouring it. My mind too! My mind needs regular rest, as much as my body does. Healthy nourishment as well. Not the junk food of social media all the time, but real, deep, meaningful conversations and books and meditations. And just as my body needs healthy, whole, safe foods, my mind and my spirit need to be fed with healthy, whole and safe things too!
Nourishment is the key to living my best life. I like that word – nourishment. But what does that look like, practically speaking? Perhaps it means being more mindful about filling my days and my life with the food and activities and people and things I love – things that make me feel whole, fulfilled, complete and happy. Reading, writing, music, getting outside in the fresh air, going for walks, grounding myself regularly and paying attention to how all these different things make me feel.
When something causes stress or anxiety (red flags), I need to pay closer attention to that and see if it’s something that needs to be removed, or if I just need to change how I’m handling it. I also need to pay attention to the stories that are running through my head. Am I ruminating on things that aren’t even true? I know I have a tendency to overthink – a lot! And it’s easy to get myself worked up about something that may not even be real. Living my best life means questioning these thoughts and not grasping on to every one that pops into my head. Like I did today when I felt like I was being lazy. Was I REALLY being lazy? Nah! I was just enjoying the quiet morning and taking a moment for myself.
Living my best life!